try peaceful means before resorting to force
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to try peaceful or diplomatic means first, and resort to force only when that fails; courtesy before combat
formalThis four-character idiom describes a strategy where one first attempts to resolve a conflict through polite negotiation or courtesy (礼), and only turns to forceful or military means (兵) if the peaceful approach fails. It carries a connotation of rationality and restraint, often used in diplomatic, business, or interpersonal contexts.
We adopted a strategy of trying peaceful means first; let's have a good talk with them first.
If the other party doesn't accept mediation, we'll have no choice but to try courtesy first and force second.
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When handling international disputes, our country has always advocated attempting diplomacy before resorting to military force.
The boss always handles clients who default on payments by extending courtesy first and force second: first sending a payment reminder, then a lawyer's letter.